Just before the beginning of 2018, I deleted my Facebook, Instagram and Twitter accounts. Permenantly. The only exception to this is my blog Facebook page. This is just so that I can auto-share my posts with friends and family who read my blog. I’d been thinking about quitting social media for a long, long time but, simply put, I was addicted.
Quitting Social Media… Forever.
I’d temporarily deleted my Facebook account a few times in the past but I always just replaced it with another social media site. And I always ended up back on there. I’ve no doubt that used in moderation, social media is a useful tool but no matter how hard I tried, I just couldn’t use it sparingly. I must’ve been checking social media about 20 times a day and it was becoming ridiculous. Here’s why I finally decided to quit for good…
1. It’s distracting
Social media was getting in the way of me doing anything productive. I’d check it first thing in the morning, again after a shower then again whilst eating breakfast. I’d spend all day at college scrolling through my feeds and checking how many likes my latest post got. Then I’d come home and scroll some more before dinner. I’d tell myself it would just be a quick 5 minutes but almost every time that turned into 30 or 60 minutes.
Since deleting my accounts, I’ve found myself with so much free time. I’ve even felt bored- then I realised I haven’t felt such boredom since I joined social media around 9 or 10 years ago. I was purposely using social media to fill up every second of my free time so that I never had a chance to become bored. Now that I’m more aware, I can ease my boredom with healthier habits such as writing, cooking or exercising.
2. It’s fake
Everyone knows that social media is a highlight reel. We only want others to see the best parts of our day and if anyone dares to share anything other than happy thoughts, people are quick to call them an attention seeker. There was a point in time that I couldn’t do anything without sharing it on social media because I wanted to show other people how great my life was.
I’ve seen couples who I know are on the verge of a breakup sharing how happy they are. People who talk shit about each other going out for drinks and sharing selfies together. Cheaters posting about how much they love their partner. “Au naturale” photos that actually took hours to make perfect with make up and filters. Christians who sleep around and get drunk every weekend publicly judging others for their ungodly behaviours. Gym goers posting progress pictures that are actually just them holding their breath and tensing in unnatural positions…
I’m guilty of being fake on social media in the past too- I’m definitely not an exception. I’ve shared happy posts or photos at the same time as I was sitting in my bedroom depressed. I’ve edited out my acne on photos before posting them online. And my Instagram feed made it look as if I was constantly travelling when in fact I’m actually sitting at home for most of the year. Absolute insanity.
3. It’s bad for my mental health
Even knowing that social media is a highlight reel, it can still be hard to not compare myself with others. Why don’t I have a body like that? Why don’t I have that much motivation and discipline? Everyone else has such a great social life and I don’t…
On top of the comparison side of things, there’s a lot of negativity. You don’t really have control over what you see anymore. Posts from people who you’re not even friends with show straight up on your feed. Some posts I’d rather not see. There are arguments in the comment section of almost every viral post and there’s so much cyber-bullying in the form of memes and jokes.
4. It’s making us self absorbed
A lot of people on social media use likes and followers as a measure of self worth. People will follow then unfollow others on Twitter and Instagram so that they look more popular and some even buy likes and followers. I’ve also seen people delete their selfies because they didn’t get as many likes as they wanted, sometimes even reposting them at a later time when more people will see it.
When I found myself bothered about how many likes I was getting or how many followers I had on Instagram, I knew that quitting social media altogether was best.
5. It’s a waste of time
With the exception of messaging my foreign friends (which I’ve replaced with emails), almost everything I did on social media was a waste of time. Looking at memes or seeing what someone had for their dinner does not add value to my life.
Like I say, when it’s used correctly I believe social media can be a great thing. But for me personally it’s doing more harm than good which is why I chose to remove myself completely. What are your thoughts on quitting social media? Have you ever thought about quitting? Let me know in the comments.
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